burps&giggles ... the loveliest cafe in the country

Was back in Ipoh for a memorable weekend for my alma mater's Centennial Reunion Dinner, what a blast. Julie Song from Indulgence "instructed" me to visit her new place called "burps&giggles" (its exactly behind the famous Kong Heng, house of mirrors, in old town).















I will just let the pictures tell you the story, its easily the loveliest, most rustic, romantic cafe  I have ever come across. So, for your next trip, besides Ipoh taugeh chicken, Hakka mee, beef noodle, dry chicken curry nasi kandar @ Yong Suan, Funny Mountain taufoofar ... you should add burps&giggles to your Must Go To list.













the entrance




nostalgic knick knacks all over the place 

my lunch, bam-bam burger with chunky fries (with melted cheese and truffle oil) 


go through the backdoor and you have a quirky yet sublime place called the "lazy lane", great atmosphere to unwind and enjoy an environment just like the 40s and 50s "concubine lane"






















every corner, every angle is a photographer's dream .....





















Food include a long list of premium burgers, pastries and sweets plus great coffee.

























clever usage of lights and lamps to enhance the very cosy feeling























the foyer with high ceiling as they have removed part of the first floor



burps&giggles
(behind Kong Heng)
93 & 95 jalan sultan yussuf
ipoh
05-2426188
www.allegraessentials.com

Sometimes We Take People For Granted

Let The Man Be The Man He Is

I never thought a simple posting like this could have struck so many chords. We all love our mums, and rightly mums get most of the accolade, Mother's Day is always bigger than Father's Day. This posting got 66 FB likes, I still cannot believe so many felt the same way. Its like we are so connected in what's deepest in us. I may not know all my readers personally, but I feel so humbled to know you all feel the same way. Its not easy to be a blogger, if there are 100 readers, there'd be 4 or 5 who will just hate your guts and they will post nasty comments to let you know that - even though out of the 100 70 or more may like you, but most will not bother to write and tell you nice things, thats the reality when you put yourself out there ... hence reading the comments for this posting was very shocking and restored my faith in humanity. I thought I had to say this, made me realise what I thought was something simple was probably my most important posting because so many people really cared.
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I had a good chat with a friend about dads growing old. I assume we are all filial sons and daughters. When our dads grow older and older, maybe some will have retired from their careers by now. I wonder how many of us "love our dads" in the way that allows him to continue to be the man that he is.

Dads who are now retired are dads from a different era. Most of our dads are the strong silent types, not like many of the younger dads nowadays who will try to be good friends with their kids. 

A man of the house usually takes the lead in the household. He takes care of the paycheck. He calls the shots in many areas of the household matters. When they retire, they may not have access to as much "money as before" - gee, do you ever wonder why, thats because he has brought you guys up, send you guys to further your studies, even finance your first car or even your first home, down payment for this and that. Flying you back from overseas, etc... 

Now he may be pushing 60 or 70, he may be living primarily off what you kids give him. We somehow think if we give them a few thousand ringgit a month, we have done our part. Your dad is still the man he was, faults and all. He used to call the shots, ask you guys where you like to have dinner, ask you guys what you want for your birthdays.

Now, he has to take money from you guys. Funds may not be so "loose". When you guys take him out to dinner, he doesn't have the "right" to pay for you guys anymore. Heck, he may even shy away from ordering whatever he likes from the menu or dictate where he wants to have dinner. He may not even be able to just take your mum wherever they wish to go for holidays. 

In these very many small ways, he is not "allowed to be the man he used to be". We as children should empathise with that. If we can afford it, we should give him more than what he needs to survive. We should allow our father to be the father he still is. 

A person's spirit is the hardest to please and easiest to break. Love comes in many disguises. Love is not just money but our attitude as well. Reconsider how we love our dads. Mine is no longer around. If your dad still is, be thankful, and be the better son and daughter. Love your dad better.

My Blackberry Is Not Working!

Many of you would have seen this already. Trust the English to put a skit up thats relevant and makes fun of the evolving English language. Smart and sassy, 15m viewers cannot be wrong. Please note that Orange is a telco service provider in the UK.

A Gentle Soul Departs

Many people pass on everyday, some famous some ordinary folks ... everyone will leave their own legacy and their influence to people around them. No one is more important or less so than the next one. Andy Williams was way popular way before I was even born. I think his passing deserves a mention cause I have rarely read a bad article about him, and he performed very well for a very long time. A gifted crooner, at a time when crooners were highly respected. A gentle soul whose voice brought us memories of wonderful melodies and lyrics for decades past and decades to come.

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Andy Williams, whose soothing baritone and relaxed performing style made him one of America's top pop vocalists and a popular TV variety-show host in the 1960s when he recorded hits such as "Moon River" and "Days of Wine and Roses," has died. He was 84.
Williams, who announced in late 2011 that he had been diagnosed with bladder cancer, died Tuesday at his home in Branson, Mo., his family announced.

Why A Documentary Is Better Than A Movie

Have you seen this? If you haven't been to an IMAX movie you haven't seen this. Obviously this documentary uses a lot of simulation footages but the realism is palpable. You do feel you could have been in the spaceship ... but to be cooped up for 7 months to travel to Mars is no joke, you probably need some sedation drugs to hibernate or else you will go crazy in an enclosed space for a prolonged period.

Still, we have figured how to get to Mars but how to get back? Its a huge lot further than the moon. But one can already see and feel the magnificent achievement from the joyous faces of the people at NASA. Its a wonderful feat by fellow planetarians to just get that far. Now, when can AirAsia get us to Mars for RM1.99???

Actually, travelling to Mars as a commuter is not that far away. Have you heard of the sharpest guy in town called Elon Musk, co-founder of PayPal, sold it and now is running Tesla the magnificent electric car, he has a company SpaceX which aims to transport people to Mars for fun. Already he has over $3b in pre flight bookings up to 2017. Not space dreams anymore.



Spirit, MER-A (Mars Exploration Rover -- A), is a robotic rover on Mars, active from 2004 to 2010. It was one of two rovers of NASA's ongoing Mars Exploration Rover Mission. It landed successfully on Mars at 04:35 Ground UTC on January 4, 2004, three weeks before its twin, Opportunity (MER-B), landed on the other side of the planet. Its name was chosen through a NASA-sponsored student essay competition. The rover became stuck in late 2009, and its last communication with Earth was sent on March 22, 2010.

The rover completed its planned 90-sol mission. Aided by cleaning events that resulted in higher power from its solar panels, Spirit went on to function effectively over twenty times longer than NASA planners expected following mission completion. Spirit also logged 7.73 km (4.8 mi) of driving instead of the planned 600 m (0.4 mi), allowing more extensive geological analysis of Martian rocks and planetary surface features. Initial scientific results from the first phase of the mission (the 90-sol prime mission) were published in a special issue of the journal Science.

On May 1, 2009 (5 years, 3 months, 27 Earth days after landing; 21.6 times the planned mission duration), Spirit became stuck in soft soil. This was not the first of the mission's "embedding events" and for the following eight months NASA carefully analyzed the situation, running Earth-based theoretical and practical simulations, and finally programming the rover to make extrication drives in an attempt to free itself. These efforts continued until January 26, 2010 when NASA officials announced that the rover was likely irrecoverably obstructed by its location in soft soil, though it continued to perform scientific research from its current location.

The rover continued in a stationary science platform role until communication with Spirit stopped on sol 2210 (March 22, 2010). JPL continued to attempt to regain contact until May 24, 2011, when NASA announced that efforts to communicate with the unresponsive rover had ended. A formal farewell was planned at NASA headquarters after the Memorial Day holiday and was televised on NASA TV.

The clip is taken from the IMAX movie "Roving Mars" from 2006 . This is an edited short version. Thanks for watching and please take your time to rate.

Cooking With Dali - Pig Trotters Vinegar Ginger




Yes, it seems like I am cooking all dishes for pregnant women, but somehow I love these dishes. I have tried and tested and refined this so many times till I got it right. Somehow, many seems to be fearful to try to cook this, I hope this will demystify the dish.

Ingredients are relatively few:
Old ginger or Muntong ginger (about the size of a hand)
Good sesame oil
One pig trotter (get the front legs not the hind legs as the latter is way too fatty)
One packet of black beans
One small bottle of sweetened vinegar
One large bottle of black vinegar
Gula melaka
4 eggs

Get your pig trotters from Sanbanto if you can, they have very good quality pork there. Start with 3 pots. One to boil the trotters (a must) to rid of the impurities or else you will get a stinky smell. Dry roast the black beans for 10 minutes till all are crackling and split. Boil to make hard boil eggs.

Once you see sufficient impurities on the trotters pot (after 10 minutes or so), remove and wash clean, set aside. Now boil the black beans in water for 15 minutes on high, a must to soften the beans sufficiently - the water will be so dark. Drain and set aside.

The coarsely sliced ginger, dump into a wok with 6 table spoons of sesame oil. Fry for 5 minutes. 

Then add the drained trotters, aim is to brown them with sesame oil and ginger coating and to precook them as later you do not need to stew them for too long with vinegar (as your vinegar will evaporate if you do so for too long a period). The browning process should take another 5 minutes.

 Add the bottle of sweetened vinegar and one bottle of black vinegar, the other bottle of black vinegar you need to keep in case to fine tune the final result, and it should look something like below. The secret here is do not use caster sugar as that would make it sickly sweet (even weakens your teeth). Throw in the black beans as well. Chop one roll of gula melaka and add to the stew. Gula melaka has a more rounded sweetness and better caramelisation without being too sickly sweet. Go on low fire for simmering for 45 minutes. Stir with soft hands every two minutes to make sure all pieces gets proper cooking.
 
 Add the egg after 10 minutes of simmering when you don't have to stir so much as the eggs might break easily. After 30 minutes of simmering, taste to see if you need more gula melaka or the black vinegar to balance the taste.






















End result. You can let it cool down and separate into 5 plastic containers, so it can last a few meals or you can give some away.

So Proud Of You Shila!!!

Shila Amzah, who knew .... against top singers from other Asian countries, and winning comfortably at each round. She won over the 9 esteemed judges made up of well known producers and major top singers. OMG, her rendition of the two famous Mandarin songs, Forever Love and Zheng Fu, were delivered in immaculate intonation and the emphasis on the words were appropriate and meaningful.

To win over the mostly China audience and judges must say a lot as there were other Chinese artistes as well. Loved the costumes as well. Well done! ND Lala must be so proud!






Got My La Escepcion Finally!

Finally got my hands on a box of La Escepcion, Selected Finos Panatela. Heard so much about it for the past few months and wrangling here and there for just one box. 

(not my fingers if you were wondering)

In 2011, Habanos brought back an old Cuban brand La Escepción. as an Regional Edition for Italy. The size is a 6 1/2 x 38 Panatela called Selectos Finos, a size that had never been offered by La Escepción prior. La Escepción is one of the oldest Cuban cigar brands with its introduction by owner José Gener sometime in the late 1850s. It was always thought of as a sister brand to Hoyo de Monterrey, mostly because Hoyo was also started and owned by José Gener, albeit after the La Escepción brand.



La Escepcion    

La Escepcion Cigars
Year of foundation: 1850's decade
Tobacco Country: Cuba
Tobacco Procedence: Vuelta Abajo
Factory: La Corona


First of all, we may remark a very funny anecdote. The name of these cigars is La Escepcion, but had to be La Excepcion (meaning exception in English). So this misspelling became one of the most famous in the history of Havana cigars. This brand has always been linked to Hoyo de Monterrey and after being sold several times, it finally remains in the hands of the firm F. Palacio y Cia. Production was not at all affected by the Revolution and eight models were listed in Cubatabaco official catalogue. It was in the 80's decade when a drop in production can be appreciated, perhaps because the most remarkable characteristic of these cigars, their extreme strength, is no longer liked by the customers. The brand was discontinued in 1989.

La Escepción Selectos Finos  ER Italy 2011 Box 4

Review: I tend not to review cigars as that may seems like encouraging people to smoke, but this is worthy of a review. The red-brown wrapper with hints of oil is already to die for. Its a great hint of a prelude to a good smoke. Now is this as good as everyone says it was.

One sentence: its the best cigar I have smoked for the past 10 years, and thats a lot of cigars to compare to. Hints of hay to start and then the explosion of espresso and dark chocolate flavours. Starts off as a medium strength and ended a bit stronger. Layers and layers of flavour and depth but a cool smoke at the same time. Still young and would smoke brilliantly in another 2 years in the humidor. What a wonderful cigar!
 
As there were only 2000 boxes made, I think I should try and stock up. The price should double in 3 years time, and its not even cheap now. If you can get it overseas (Italy, Geneva), you should be paying $630 per box. If it ever gets to Asia, be prepared for RM2,800-RM3,200 per box.



The Price Determines The Attractiveness

There was a great article in The Star a few days back which had a couple of fund managers being negative on Astro IPO. When I read further I was shocked at the valuation. At an indicative price of RM3.60 (this is the price that has been set for bumiputra investors) and based on its earnings of RM629.6mil for its financial year ended Jan 31, 2012 (FY12), this translates to a price-earnings ratio of 38 times. 

I have written that I like Astro IPO as a dividend play, BUT at RM3.60, the price-earnings ratio is more than 30 times and the dividend yield is only 2%. Now this pisses me off. I have been defending AK's strategy to delist and relist as they were still within the rules operating at the time. You come back with a dividend play scheme and if its really RM3.60, you can go fly wau.

Luckily it was an indicative pricing, today's article came out with firmer details.  Astro Malaysia Holdings Bhd, a pay-TV firm, has set an indicative price range of 2.70-3.00 ringgit per share for institutional investors for its initial public offering that could raise up to RM4.56bil (US$1.5bil), a source with direct knowledge of the deal said.


The institutional book for Astro will open on Wednesday, said the source, who declined to be identified as details of the deal were not yet public.

Based on the indicative price range, the total 1.52 billion shares in the offer could be worth 4.1-4.56 billion ringgit.

The deal is being handled by CIMB, Maybank and RHB, while several foreign banks are also advisers including UBS, Credit Suisse, Goldman Sachs and JPMorgan.

Comment: Even at the reduced price of RM2.70, its still a very high price, yield will just be 2.66%, which there are plenty of other blue chips offering better than that. I doubt very much it will even break RM2.80 upon listing. Hence the upside will only be good if you can get it between RM2.50-2.55. I expect it to trade with a very small premium (maybe 5 sen) if they stick to RM2.70 as IPO price. Its all in the dividend yield people. Too greedy, just too greedy.

Cooking With Dali - Drunken Chicken Ginger Broth

OK it seems I have nothing much to say about the markets over the last couple of weeks. Share with you all another minor passion of mine, cooking - freestyle. I hate recipes. If I like something, I will try and decipher and breakdown the dish and put them together my way. For more traditional ones, I will get my mum to give the basic ingredients and away I go to come up with something I really like.

Today I felt a stirring and yearning for Drunken Chicken Ginger Broth. Its easy yet so satisfying, and heaty. Try it, you will love this version:


Unless you brew your own rice wine, any Hua Tiew wines will do, all supermarts have them, about RM10-14 per bottle, try to get two different brands for "depth". Use only drumsticks and thighs, chop into pieces.

Here is where it gets tricky, USE only Buntong Ginger (Muntong Keong), it costs a huge premium to normal ginger and is only available at morning markets. The ginger is so refreshing, you can even bite into it like a fruit to enjoy and yet gives the most soothing ginger taste, not overpowering.


Marinade the chicken with soy sauce, lots of white pepper and a table spoon of good sesame oil. Put aside for at least 30 minutes or longer.

Dice the ginger 3 ways, julienne, thicker julienne and rough pieces... texture baby, texture. Heat your wok with 6-8 tablespoons of sesame oil (its OK to be generous), throw in the ginger on medium heat for 5 minutes. Then throw in the chicken, making sure to brown all sides for another 6 -7 minutes.

This is important as you want the chicken to be coated, pre-cooked, so that it does not need that much boiling time with the wine.



I always have ready some useless whiskey or brandy as top ups, just in case. Put in the Hua Tiew, slow fire with the chicken and ginger the whole shebang, cover with lid. It needs to simmer for 10 minutes, really simmer, not any hotter as the chicken would be rough and not smooth in texture - always with lid on as you do not want too much alcohol to escape.

Taste, add salt and sugar to get the right mix. In this case it needed two teaspoon of salt and 4 tablespoon of sugar to balance out the alcohol. The versions you have outside are so diluted and pathetic, thats why these things usually cost RM10-14 per serving and still tastes diluted.


 Boil some Wan Yee (again available at all supermarts) in water for 10 minutes, drain then slice, throw the bugger in for the last 5 minutes of simmering.

This broth can serve 6 but the bill comes to nearly RM50 but its got the real kick in the guts feeling.







 End result, all in less than one hour, rice with kick ass drunken wine ginger .... sweat like mad but heavenly so. Till my next recipe..... cheers.

Fundraiser For St John Ambulance - Update

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Last Saturday I went to the annual fundraiser dinner for SJA (Southern Selangor), which was held at Xi Lai Ton in Kajang. It was a successful venture but more so in that we all got to understand and appreciate more the tireless work they do, and how much they depend on the generosity of well wishers to sustain such an important undertaking.

Less than one month to the event for October 13th, hope you all could give them some support, ticketing information is listed below:





The proceeds will be to aid in provision of Ambulance Services and to acquire new Dialysis machines:
a) Ambulance services - Primarily operating in Klang Valley with 3 cars. They support the transportation of casualties to cover 8 Primary Hospitals in Klang Valley and they are also prepared to assist Government Agencies with large-scale incidents. More importantly they help those who are bed ridden and need help for weekly or monthly check ups
b) Dialysis - SJAM’s entry into the provision of haemodialysis treatment began in 1993. Today, KPS manages thirteen dialysis centres with one hundred and seventy machines, the second largest in terms of number of machines in the country. Presently, KPS has more than four hundred patients under their care.
Our Objectives:- to raise awareness of SJAM Selangor activities
- to raise funds to substain operating expenses
- to buy one equipped ambulance
- to buy ten dialysis machines
Dialysis Machines Sponsors: Each machine costs RM40,000. We are looking for sponsors for the machines. If you are keen to sponsor one, please call Kong Min Ho (019-3345220).



WHEN:  Saturday, 13th October 2012
            9.30am-11.30am

WHERE:  Bentley Auditorium, 4th Level, The Curve

COST:  RM153pp

How To Purchase?

a)  Click on link and then click on BUY ONLINE
http://www.ticketcharge.com.my/jl/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=281

b) Call  Hotline : +603 9222 8811
Mon - Fri : 9am till 6pm
Sat : 12pm till 6pm
Close on Sunday & Public Holidays

c) Visit any of the Ticketcharge outlets




BLOG COMMENT - Car Hire - Pardon?

Who truly understands car hire except those who are in the business of hiring out cars? On one side you have the 'premium' companies such as Avis and Hertz and then, well, everyone else! Unlike airlines the car hire companies offer the same directly comparable means of transport but at different prices. Why? How? After many years in the TMC business I still haven't a clue. Well not really! I expect the bigger companies are global and have a bigger inventory but should they cost so much? OK, so they can (or could) afford to pay middle men incentives to promote them. And they could always leverage their coverage and reputation but even so the price gap is simply too high. So what are they doing about it? I guess they are doing what everyone else is doing i.e. reducing their overheads and becoming more competitive. Or are they? Who knows? Car Hire has started to shift away from travel procurement anyway. Good job too if everyone else understands as little as me.

Whatsappening Man!!!

Those in the know will know where this post is headed by the headline ... many have voiced their concerns, but this has already gotten to critical stage.

How many times have seen entire families eating dinner at restaurants, and the kids are feverishly texting, Facebooking or playing computer games on their phones or I-Pads. Where is the quality time???

The normal defence from parents is that "its whats needed to keep them occupied (not noisy)" ... Fuck me blue, what did we have when we were growing up??? Did we bring our tops and marbles on the tables and play with them??? Something happened along the way that fucked us up royally. Technology is wonderful, but we must not let technology ruin the essence of communication and connection between one another. Parents, don't take the easy way out ... have you tried confiscating/restricting mobile phones / ipads and comp usage??? They must learn that at certain times, you have to TALK FACE TO FACE, eventually. What kind of social skills are we teaching our next generation????

Dude, that means, your kids won't have to visit you when you are old.... they can just send a MSM Hologram to you and speak to you ... "Hey, dad, its the same thing ..."

Technology no matter how wonderful, supposedly to keep us in touch more but separates us even more. I have a friend who had her birthday recently, she had over 300 FB friends, and on her birthday got over 100 birthday wishes in FB, many very intimate and funny, witty and well-intentioned. I asked her how many presents she got ..... NONE. Case closed.

Stop poking me, want to see me, give me a call. No relationship has ever gotten so much stronger because of Whatsapp. Whatsapp is very good cause its free, but we must use them smartly. If you and I are  spending more than 5 minutes on Whatsapp, then we should seriously meet up.
 
There are people who must learn to use Whatsapp properly, when you are having dinner and lunch with friends or family, STOP texting, not only is it rude to the present company, its disconcerting. I have seen the entire table of 5 texting ... I mean why bother having dinner together. 

When we have dinners or lunches, we are telling others we want to spend some quality time ... or are we telling our friends or parents that its OK, you can feel free to interrupt/disturb my time with my friends or parents anytime.  NOTHING IS EVER SO FUCKING IMPORTANT THAT THEY HAVE TO BE ANSWERED WITHIN THE NEXT 5 SECONDS ... I know cause some years ago, we did not even have mobile phones and WE WERE ALL ALRIGHT!!! WE DID NOT MISS ANY FUNERALS, THE SECOND COMING OF JESUS ...

Use the technology well, do not let it enslave us.

If You Do Not Open Your Mouth ... People Won't Know How Stupid You Are



The Education Ministry had endorsed "guidelines" to help parents to identify gay and lesbian "symptoms" in their children so they can take early corrective measurements.

The guidelines list four symptoms each of gays and lesbians:

Symptoms of gays:

-Have a muscular body and like to show their body by wearing

-V-neck and sleeveless clothes;

-Prefer tight and light-coloured clothes;

- Attracted to men; and

- Like to bring big handbags, similar to those used by women, when hanging out.

Symptoms of lesbians:

- Attracted to women;

- Besides their female companions, they will distance themselves from other women;

- Like to hang out, have meals and sleep in the company of women; and

- Have no affection for men.

"Once the children have these symptoms, immediate attention should be given," the guidelines warn.

According to Sin Chew Daily, the guidelines published by Yayasan Guru Malaysia Bhd and Putrajaya Consultative Council of Parents and Teachers Associations, and endorsed by the Education Ministry, were launched during a seminar in Penang yesterday.

The seminar on "Parenting in addressing the issue of LGBTs (lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgenders)" was organised by Yayasan Guru Malaysia Bhd and officiated by Deputy Education Minister Mohd Puad Zarkashi.

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Self-explanatory, I guess, and they had the audacity to "approve and circulate and publish" the above as part of Education Ministry guidelines, or endorsed by the Education Ministry. Firstly, by saying the above, we can confirm you have NO IDEA who/what gays and lesbians are. To me, the guidelines is like saying a person with a goatee is of Islam religion - you like that guideline too?

The guidelines are so wrong on so many levels. Instead of trying to understand and have "1 Malaysia", we are creating distance, marginalisation and isolation and discrimination by singling out - why, pray tell? Don't you have enough problems living your own life instead of bothering with other people's lifestyles and values. 

Symptoms, they had the gall to call them symptoms ... They ARE NOT DISEASES!!! I will give you a real symptom ... the guideline document above, ...  now that's a symptom of a major u-know-what!

BLOG COMMENT - Branson's Bile

Submitted by Mike Platt on Thu, 2012-09-13 16:59. It is regretable that Richard Branson seems to have thrown all his toys out of the cupboard over the loss of his West Coast rail contract. I know he can be petulant but this is taking it to extremes. To my mind the process went that the government went out to tender, people bid, bids were evaluated and the successful candidates notified. Quite stanard and quite reasonable. Now I know the government ties itself up in rules and regulations which are further exacerbated by European legislation and this is what I presume Mr Branson is trying to manipulate. I personally have been through all this during the MOD travel tender and, although they thought about it, none of the other contenders considered they would gain in the long or short term by formally objecting to the process. For once I am four square behind the government on this. The fact that the man is Richard Branson should not be enough to drive anyone into a U-turn on such a decision based on price and service. If the successful bidder fails? Well then a review might be necessary and MR B will have his chance again.

Missing in Action: Respect

Does hearing a child use a respectful phrases, such as "please," "thank you," or "excuse me," cause you to stop in surprise, and maybe even say out loud, "Oh, how nice!"?  Then, do you feel all panicky, realizing you just felt shocked . . .  by good manners?

A mainstay of society, the respect many of us have taken for granted all our lives, appears to have diminished to an alarming degree at an alarming rate.  Some evidence to support this lack of  human decency, common courtesy -- the absence of respect -- comes in the form or road rage, violent acts reported on the news every day, rising rates of bullying and hate crimes, as well as in the divorce rate.  Lack of respect seems to have taken a top spot in "Hallmarks of Society".  Or am I just wearing my cynical-colored goggles?

My husband and I raise our children to use polite language, not always offering explicit instruction, but using it ourselves and expecting the same from those around us.  By "expecting," I mean, "hoping to hear it in turn or in kind."  We don't always hear it at home, but we hear about their decency and kindness from others, which, as most parents know, counts for a lot.  The families we know teach their children similarly.  We try to surround ourselves with Christian influence, people of faith and good character.

Yet, in many situations, those polite-minded children omit the words and actions they know, sometimes acting as if they never learned them.  This irksome occurrence happens because world they live in, outside our realm of expectation and teaching, does not require them to comply with our teaching or offer many instances for follow-up lessons by coaches, teachers or other adults who have not been quieted by lax social standards.

Twenty-first Century children often do not hold doors for others, don't excuse themselves when passing in front of another person, don't allow others to go first, and don't give up a seat for an elder.  These social mores have fallen into a category called "Old-Fashioned".  Can you feel my ire getting up?  Old-fashioned?  Respectfulness can never go out of fashion and allow rudeness to rule.

Respectfulness comes from within, from the heart.  A person can learn it and choose to either internalize it (make it real and purposeful) or sport it (use it when deemed helpful, like a magic trick to amaze and mystify).  Whether from heredity or environment, respectfulness makes the difference between what we really feel and what we think we should feel.  It's a way of life or an act.   Romans 12:10 reminds us, 
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor;
Our courteous actions and words should flow easily, toward those around us, simply out of respect to other humans, other lives.

When did our society decide that going against the grain seemed a good and right?  When did questioning of authority -- all authority -- take precedence over a sense of community?  When did we leave behind our words of kindness, deeds of heart-felt service and thoughts of decency for whatever popular, indulgent, selfish activity rolls past and waves at us?

Some point to the 1960's and the Feminist Movement, with the fight for equality between men and women raging and providing a win-lose outcome for marriage, family, and the workplace.  Then, we have the 1970's, during which new parents flouted the stringent discipline of their upbringings for a softer, more lenient parenting style, and more and more women entered the work force.  More and more marriages dissolved, too.  Forward to the 1980's with Time-Out discipline, offering 2-year olds a chance to contemplate their wrongdoing and to go forth and keep on biting in lieu of a talking to or (gasp!) a swat on the backside to deter the improper behavior.  More working parents, more divorce.  Hmmmm.  Don't lose track of the 1990's, during which time more children began to grow up in daycare settings than ever before, coming home to parents who weren't in touch with them enough to understand their baby talk, their personalities or their needs, and who had no time or energy to handle them after long days at work, if they enjoyed a nuclear (2-parent) family at all.  And now, 21st Century life provides all of these plus electronics to suit every whim, further dividing our time, our patience and our understanding of the difference between want and need.

Our culture needs to take serious stock of itself and decide where it can start plugging in some of the brotherly love it has lost, and to experience the outward effects of giving preference to others over self.

When those things happen, and they can, the abundance of good manners will overflow.  The decency of people lives inside each individual, but without motivation and cultivation, the human side of us beats it down in deference to selfish indulgences and more "me-me-me" ways of seeing the world.

We can do it.  We are all Little Engines That Could, we need only try, and then watch the sparks fly.


 

Financial Jargon & Terminologies For The Current Times

This is largely a repost of some smart-ass definition for financial jargon. Had to do it for the benefit of newer readers of the blog. Some of them were copied

EBITDA
Earnings Before I Tricked the Dumb Auditor

EBIT
Earnings Before Irregularities and Tempering


Brainstorming
Same as blame-storming, trying to attribute blame for mistakes

Management Consultant
Someone who tells you how to improve your business, something he/she cannot do or has never been able to do themselves

Top-Down Investing
People with a bit of economics knowledge but scared shitless about accounting

Bottom-Up Investing
People who knows a bit about accounting but hates fiction

Unusual Market Activity
Something the management and directors always know NOTHING about

Averaging Down Investing
When you totally ignore the fact that you were wrong in the first instance

Doubling Up Investing
Making doubly sure that you are more than fully-invested when the stock eventually tanks


Multi-tasking
Doing more than one useless activity at the same time, better known as multi-slacking

CEO
Chief Embezzlement Officer

CFO
Chief Fraud Officer


LIFO & FIFO
An investment bank hiring/firing policy

Second Board
What Second Board???


CV
The art of pushing optimism and white lies to the max

Margin Account
Shorter rope, tighter noose


Paradigm Shift
Your job in the financial markets is in jeopardy

Hedge Funds
"Institutionalised" margin accounts


Drill-down / Granularity
Words managers learn to use to enslave their subordinates

NAV
Normal Andersen Valuation

NPAT
Never Pay Any Tax

EPS
Eventual Prison Sentence


Don't Reinvent The Wheel
A person who does not know how the wheel was invented in the first place

Net Net
When you have a manager doing a presentation trying to bastardise the English language

Federal Reserve Board
Bank of Japan on Prozac


Thinking Outside The Box
You just want to leave the meeting room and chill because no one has been able to offer any constructive ideas

Equity Research
As useful as a used condom

Equity Analysts
Hopes no one discovers how average they are

Fund Managers
Sponges off the brains of analysts and strategists and call it their own

Chartists & Rocket Scientists With Trading Programs
People who have given up trying to understand the stock markets

Short Term Investor
Someone who is in-and-out within 3 days or less

Long Term Investor
A short term investor who cannot get out profitably after 3 days

Bull Market
A random market movement causing an investor to mistake himself for a financial genius

Bear Market
A 6 to 18 month period when the kids get no allowance, the wife gets no jewellery, and the husband gets no sex

Off Balance Sheet Items
More important than items in the balance sheet, and represent things that really should be in the balance sheet


Service Level Agreement
It means there will be no service follow up, we are just covering our ass here

Unemployment Office
A placement office for humanities graduates

Momentum Investing
The fine art of buying high and selling low with the crowd

Value Investing
The fine art of buying low and selling lower


Core Competencies
Phrase you use when you have no idea what a company's or a person's strengths and weaknesses are

P/E ratio
The percentage of investors wetting their pants as the Market keeps crashing


Big Picture
You are just imagining the same meeting with the same people on a movie screen

Stock Broker
Poorer than you were last year

Remisier
Someone who should have kept their previous job

Investor Protection
Padded walls in broking halls

Market Correction
The day after you buy stocks

Cash Flow
The movement your money makes as it disappears down the toilet

Institutional Investor
Past year investor who is now locked up in a nuthouse


Two Week Holidays
Taken by employees who are oblivious to whether their jobs will still be there by the time they return

Economist
Someone who tells you why their predictions went wrong after every quarter, and proceeds to give a confident prediction for the next 3 quarters